@ Your Library 2.11.20



@ Your Library

by Beverly Ewart



The flu is nasty…  but it does provide an opportunity to read lots of books!

The flu hit me last weekend, giving me an out on household chores and outside engagements.  I picked up You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why it Matters by Kate Murphy and found it so insightful and inspiring that I thought I would encourage you to check it out, too. 

Lately I have found myself less and less on social media (except for work-related posting), and thought it was just because I was too busy.  As I read Murphy’s book, I realized that my cooling relationship with social media is because of a growing dis-enchantment with a “social” venue that hasn’t done anything to bring people together.  It seems to be more and more a marketplace and less and less a meeting place for learners and thinkers.  

On page 68 of You’re Not Listening, there is an anecdote that sums up for me the problem so beautifully that I want to revisit it here (without actually quoting it - you should read it yourself for the full effect):  A famous adventurer, on a cross-country flight, struck up a conversation with his seatmate. He went into a non-stop account of all of his daring, death-defying exploits for the benefit of his seatmate on the plane, who was an excellent listener.  At the end of the flight the adventurer paused his story-telling and apologized, because he realized that he hadn’t thought to get his fellow-passenger’s name. His fellow-passenger was Neil Armstrong.

Isn’t that just like Facebook?  I can be so absorbed with posting about myself that I completely neglect to engage with the person sitting next to me at the doctor’s office, or the bus stop, or even the dinner table!

When I read that little story about the adventurer and Neil Armstrong, I thought, “How many opportunities have I missed by failing to listen?”  Because - really - everyone IS a story!

So - I am listening.  Maybe - if I’m lucky - you will share YOUR story with me someday.

  • You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why it Matters by Kate Murphy.  "An essential book for our times. How well we listen determines how we love, learn, and connect with one another, and in this moment when we need to hear and be heard more than ever, this thought-provoking and engaging book shows us how." -Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. At work, we're taught to lead the conversation. On social media, we shape our personal narratives. At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians. We're not listening. And no one is listening to us. Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it's making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here. In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we're not listening, what it's doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cutting expose, rousing call to action, and practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It's time to stop talking and start listening. - Provided by publisher.


CFL will be closed Monday, February 17, for President’s Day.


Children’s  Programs: 

Baby Storytime for 0-18 months and a caregiver, no registration needed. Tuesday mornings 10:00-10:45am. Books, bounce rhymes, songs, finger plays, and social/play time.

Toddler Storytime for 18-35 months and a caregiver. No registration. Monday mornings 10:30-11:00am. Involves books, flannel board stories, finger plays, music, and a craft activity.

Preschool Storytime for 3-5 year olds and a caregiver. No registration is needed. Meets Wednesday mornings from 10:30-11:15am. Involves books, flannel board stories, songs, fingerplays, movement, and crafts.

Junior Writers Group for ages 8-12 meets the second and last Thursday from 3:30-4:50. No registration is needed. Children brainstorm on a given theme, write and perhaps illustrate a short story, and share it with the group if they wish.

Books and Beyond and Tween Time are on a hiatus. Stay tuned.



Teen Programs: 

Anime Club. Join us on Friday evenings from 5-7 to experience anime both old school and contemporary. 

Chess Club: meets on Mondays from 5-7. All skill levels welcome.

Game Club now runs on Mondays from 3-5pm. Stop in at the library and try your hand at any of our multitude of games! 


Adult Programs: 

Community Conversations: Being Mortal. Medicine has undoubtedly triumphed in modern times, but when it comes to the inescapable realities of aging and death, what medicine can do often runs counter to what it should.


In this bestselling book, Atul Gawande fearlessly reveals the struggles of the medical profession and examines its ultimate limitations and failures as life draws to a close.  


Being Mortal shows how the ultimate goal is not a good death, but a good life all the way to the very end.  Each of us should have the opportunity to express our wishes for our end of life care.


On Wednesday, February 12th 6:30 – 8:00 p.m. join the Canton Free Library in partnership with Hospice of the St. Lawrence Valley and become part of a national conversation that brings medical professions and community members together around the shared responsibility of discussing what matters most to patients and families facing difficult treatment decisions and how to have the conversations ahead of a medical crisis.


Gaslands: Join us for Gaslands in 2020! The Canton Free Library will continue to host Gaslands tabletop gaming sessions on the main floor of the library on the SECOND and LAST Wednesday of each month from 6pm-8pm. For more info visit: https://www.cantonfreelibrary.org/gaslands


The Stitchuationists: Join our knitting, crocheting, embroidery group on Wednesdays from 6pm-8pm. All skill levels and ages are welcome! 


Writer’s Group: The Writers Group has existed for more than two decades and is a place where writers of all types can share their work and help each other. Bring the writer in you and join us for a fun time, mutual support and constructive feedback. The group meets upstairs in the Mezzanine on the SECOND and LAST Monday of each month at 6pm.


Hours: Canton Free Library (phone: 315 386 3712) is open Monday 9:30am - 8pm, Tuesday 9:30am - 5pm, Wednesday 9:30am - 8pm, Thursday 9:30am -5pm, Friday 9:30am -5pm, and Saturday 10am-3pm. Please note that the book drop remains open 24/7 for returns. Rensselaer Falls Branch Library (phone: 315 344 7406) is open Monday, Wednesday and Friday from 3pm -6pm. Morley Branch Library (phone: 315 379 0066) is open Tuesdays & Thursdays from 1pm - 4pm and Wednesdays from 3pm-6pm.  

For more CFL news, “like” the library page on Facebook.  Find new additions to our collection on our website: cantonfreelibrary.org. To renew your current checkouts, login to ncls.org; you may also renew via email at canlib@ncls.org, or by calling (315) 386-3712.

Listen @ your library!