@ Your Library 9.4.18

Be Mindful!

@ Your Library

By Beverly Ewart


Does your mind ever get out of hand?  Not out of hand in a zombie-esque way, but does it constantly trick you into believing that you are in imminent danger or that the terrible feelings you are feeling right now are never going to change?  Maybe your mind is reeling from a grievous loss, and in its dizzy haze it is warning you that life as you know it is over and you will never feel peace/joy/hope again.

Or maybe yours is one of those minds that decides on a new disease for you daily.  You casually look in the mirror and your mind says, “Oh my god!  You’re so pale!  You must have meningitis!” With a mind like that you might even call for the zombies to take it off your hands! (Don’t do it!)

School has just begun and perhaps you have lost your appetite, or you feel the need to check about 5,000x to be sure you locked the door before heading to class.  Your mind is breaking open neural fortune cookies, finding all the ones that contain the bad fortunes, and reading them to you as you head out the door.  (In real life, fortune cookies only contain ambiguous good fortune; the mind creates its own bad fortunes - because it is nothing if not creative!)

It’s time to take your mind in hand.  Not in a zombie-esque way.  We have some excellent new and newish books for a variety of ages and experiences with these and other challenging mind-behaviors:

  • Stuff That Sucks: A Teen's Guide to Accepting What You Can't Change and Committing to What You Can by Ben Sedley.  "If you struggle with negative thoughts and emotions, you should know that your pain is real. No one should try to diminish it. Sometimes stuff really does suck and we have to acknowledge it. Worry, sadness, loneliness, anger, and shame are big and important, but they can also get in the way of what really matters. What if, instead of fighting your pain, you realized what really matters to you--and put those things first in life? If you did that, maybe your pain wouldn't feel so big anymore. Isn't it worth a try?  Stuff That Sucks offers a compassionate and validating guide to accepting emotions, rather than struggling against them. With this book as your guide, you'll learn to prioritize your thoughts, feelings, and values. You'll figure out what you care about the most, and then start caring some more! The skills you'll learn are based on acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). Yes, there are a few written exercises, but this isn't a workbook. It's a journey into the stuff that sucks, what makes that sucky stuff suck even more, and how just a few moments each day with the stuff that matters will ultimately transform the stuff that sucks into stuff that is just stuff. Make sense?"--Amazon. (YA) (I just finished reading this one and wish it had been available when my own kids were teens! - Beverly)
  • Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy by Sheryl Sandberg & Adam Grant.  After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. "I was in 'the void, '" she writes, "a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe." Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build. Option B combines Sheryl's personal insights with Adam's research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart -- and her journal -- to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl's loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere and to rediscover joy. (A NF)
  • Master of Mindfulness: How to be Your own Superhero in Times of Stress by Laurie Grossman and Mason J. Musumeci's 5th Grade Class.  "Faster than a speeding spitball, more powerful than a playground bully, able to breeze through homework and finish nightly chores in a single bound, Grossmans' Master of Mindfulness is here to conquer stress, worry, and any trouble that comes your way! With this fun and empowering book, written for kids by kids and featuring cool illustrations and tips, young readers will learn how to use the power of mindfulness to address daily stresses -- whether at school, at home, or with friends--so they can be confident, get focused, stay calm, and tap into their own inner strength. Kids can be their own superheroes--no matter what life throws their way!"--Publisher. (J NF)
  • Visiting Feelings by Lauren Rubenstein, JD, PsyD.  "Beautifully descriptive prose and delightful illustrations cultivate a message of mindfulness and emotional awareness to help children fully experience the present moment. Rather than labeling or defining specific emotions and feelings, Visiting Feelings invites children to sense, explore, and befriend any feeling with acceptance and equanimity. Children can explore their emotions with their senses and nurture a sense of mindfulness. Gaining this objectivity allows space for a more considered response to the feelings. Practicing mindfulness can also enhance many aspects of well-being, help develop insight, empathy, and resiliency." (E) --Amazon.
  • Even Superheroes Have Bad Days by Shelly Becker.  A group of superheroes are having a bad day and learn to cope with their emotions. (E)


Adult Programs:

The Great American Read: We’re following the national hunt for America’s Best Loved Novel through the PBS television series The Great American Read. You can cast your vote for your favorite book online or via text. A list of the 100 books included is currently in the library. Look for the shelf tags as you travel throughout our stacks. For more information visit: https://www.pbs.org/the-great-american-read/home/

Children’s Programs resume the second week in September. Here are the details!

Baby Storytime starts Tuesday, September 11th. This program is for kids from birth-18 months and their caregivers, no registration needed. Tuesday mornings from 10:00-10:45am. We feature books, bounce rhymes, songs, fingerplays, and social/play time.

Toddler Storytime starts Monday, September 10th for kids from 18-35 months and their caregivers. No registration required! Monday mornings from 10:30-11:00am. Everyone will enjoy books, flannel board stories, fingerplays, music, and craft activities.

Preschool Storytime starts Wednesday, September 12th for 3-5 year olds and a caregiver. No registration is needed. We meet Wednesday mornings from 10:30-11:15am. There will be books, flannel board stories, songs, fingerplays, movement, and crafts.

Junior Writer's Group starts Thursday, September 13th for ages 8-12. This group meets the second and fourth Thursdays of the month from 3:30-4:50. No registration is needed. Children are encouraged to brainstorm on a given theme, write and perhaps illustrate a short story, and share it with the group.

Books and Beyond for Kindergarten-2nd grade starts Tuesday September 18th.  Books and Beyond meets one Tuesday a month from 3-4pm and features books, games, and arts and crafts. Registration is required by the Friday prior to the program.

Tween Time for grades 3-6 begins Tuesday, September 25th and meets one Tuesday a month from 3-4pm.  Tween Time features books, games, and art.   Registration is required by the Friday prior to the program.

Teen Programs:

Anime Club: Join us on Friday evenings from 5-7 to experience anime both old school and contemporary. We are currently watching My Hero Academia.

Casuals Wielding Dice returns starting September 12! Join Dave Crowell from 2:30 to 5pm for epic adventures through a variety of different tabletop games!

Game Club: Board games! Video games! Stop in Wednesdays from 3-5 to try your hand at any of the wide assortment of games we have available at the Library. After September 5th, Game Club will be moving to a different day, details to be decided.

Clash of the Readers’ booklist includes Caraval by Stephanie Garber, Empress of a Thousand Skies by Rhoda Belleza, The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas, and The 57 Bus by Dashka Slater. Registration began on August 13; the competition is scheduled for  November 17.

Hours: Canton Free Library (phone: 315 386 3712) is open Monday 9:30am - 8pm, Tuesday 9:30am - 5pm, Wednesday 9:30am - 8pm, Thursday 9:30am -5pm, Friday 9:30am -5pm, and Saturdays from 10am -3pm. Please note that the book drop remains open 24/7 for returns. Rensselaer Falls Branch Library (phone: 315 344 7406) is open Monday, Wednesday, and Friday from 3pm -6pm. Morley Branch Library (phone: 315 379 0066) is open Tuesdays & Thursdays from 1pm - 6pm for the summer.  Please call the branch libraries before visiting, to be sure that they are open; hours may vary a bit due to unforeseen circumstances.  

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Be mindful @ your library!